Ways To Be More In The Moment Without Forcing Anything During Sex
We often hear that we could have a better sec, a better relationship or better orgasm, but how often we hear about how can we actually understand our deepest desires and the most embarrassing questions? Arousal is a complex process and a lot of different factors take part in this. Fortunately, we have some tried and true ways to get you to enjoy your sex.
Respect your natural sex drive
Are you a person who says yes to sex when your partner intimate, even if you are not interested. It is tough to get aroused during sex if you are not aroused in the first place. In a healthy relationship, maintenance sex is important but you should be comfortable to turn down sex with your partner if you are not in the mood. This will help you understand your natural feelings of desire and arousal.
Bestow time for yourself to warmup
This sounds cliche, usually, women take a longer time to warm up to sex than men. Many women get frustrated with themselves for the same reason. But you should really be patient and give some time to feel desire.
Getting aroused is an enjoyable experience, one’s frustrations will, even more, derail the other’s arousal. So talk with your partner about spending more time in foreplay before the main picture. You can get into kissing, talking and connecting, laying in the bed naked, holding each other or even spending 10 to 20 minutes going nice and slow. You will feel that your desire and pleasure gradually build.
Do not expect to be present all the time
Even if you are enjoying yourself it is normal to get distracted during sex. Even during the most ridiculous night with your partner, there may be some distractions like period cramps or you may don’t off mentally. Never expect to be completely in the zone during sex as it hardly works that way in real life. Do not pressure yourself to be 100 present all the time.
Get familiar with your desires
Most of the women struggle in knowing what they want during sex, so they decide to go in the flow of their partner. Other women don’t know how to describe their desire. Only if you know your desire for sex when being intimate you can enjoy maximum pleasure. Sure it takes time to learn your sexual desire but it is the most adventurous thing to embark on.
Focus on your body
Pleasure is within your body. The best way to enjoy yourself more during sex is to give attention to the sensations you are feeling. Begin from your head and imagine that you are traveling down your body and scanning each area slowly. Give more attention to your genitals, even try honing your clitoris in and out for some time. Just notice the specific sensations that you feel in each area. You can feel the warm heat near your stomach or even your thighs gently fluttering. You can try this exercise before you plan to be intimate with your partner.
Make a change
If you are trying the same position or doing the same thing for a very long time it will be easy for you to zone out. You may find yourself distracted and lost, at this time try switching up things differently. Taking a quick break to kiss your partner, changing positions, ask your partner to go down on you for a bit. Things that get your body moving will help you bring back your distraction.
Get more visual
Many people have sex in the dark but it is hard to get aroused and be present without even seeing what is happening. Turn the lights on or trying in front of the mirror are some of the ways to increase your arousal. Humans are visual creatures this will surely work. If you are worried about too much light try lighting candles or use a small bedside lamp.
Practice meditation
Mediation is one of the best ways to make you be awake during the best moments. Most of us are aware of meditation but we hardly try them. This might be the one reason to kick start meditation.
Try all of them and find out which one suits you the best to get you more pleasure and enjoyment during sex.
